As you have probably noticed, there’s alot of bullshit around that is attacking men and masculinity. Even worse is idiots who don’t deserve to have testicles and a penis are writing some of it, in the hopes that maybe one of the unattractive feminist girls will finally drop their pantaloons for them. These men don’t deserve any respect.
You go on facebook and you see it everywhere, alot of mainstream sites and places online, usually you come across it without meaning to. And it’s not having a positive influence on us as men at all!
As much as I know it’s bullshit, it still has an affect on me if I see it too much. And unfortunately that is what they want, to bring down men.
Then there’s the opposite extreme which is ‘red pill’ type sites. This can be just as bad because it’s a bunch of guys who really hate the world and women talking all kinds of shit and giving you the impression it’s all bad and fucked up. And it can have some of the same effect since some of their articles are whinging about the articles attacking men. I found it just brought into my own anger issues and made it worse.
And you know the interesting thing? I pretty much never come across this crap in my daily life outside of facebook and the internet. So the world isn’t how these idiots are trying to present, but reading it all the time makes you think that.
I’ve felt alot better since minimizing time on facebook, and I notice the times I get drawn back in I feel like crap and it ruins my attention span. I go there for a bit and my head feels all scattered and I can’t focus. Facebook does this by design, but it’s only become really obvious after I minimized the time on it. Reddit seems to have a similar effect.
So what do you do? Well the best thing to do is not get caught up in it. Minimize your time on facebook, on stupid sites where you might come across articles written by idiots with no balls, don’t hang around people who support it. I also found that I used to get angry and get into arguments about it, but discovered it’s completely useless arguing with them and also of no benefit to me.
What is of benefit? Finding positive influcence, positive things to read, listen to or watch. Good examples of masculinity.
And also to focus on your own growth and development, find the blockages and insecurities inside that are making you uncomfortable or insecure as a man and start to work on them, without constantly exposing yourself to bullshit that goes against that.
My favourite tool at the moment for this and dealing with other negativity inside is PSTEC. Which I wrote about in Being Attacked While Wearing Nothing But Black Underwear Can Be Traumatic.